Widen your middle ground
“People of great ability keep extremes far apart, so that there is a long distance between them. They always keep in the middle of their caution, so they take time to act.”
Baltasar Gracián, The Art of Worldly Wisdom
Beware of either-or, black-and-white thinking.
If your only options are “success or failure,” you’ll be stressed. If you’re only “a winner or a loser,” you’ll be overcome by pressure. Better to seek nuance, subtlety and shades of gray.